Couples

The Relationship you have with each other is unique to you both; often it will have its own language and stories. Together you have explicitly and implicitly created a set of guidelines and rules that support and guide each of you.

But what happens when this status quo is challenged through life’s circumstances; Redundancy, Bereavement, Ill health, Affairs, Children Leaving home, Financial problems to name but a few. These events can shake a relationship to its very core asking questions of the couple that perhaps they have no answers to but which may lead to a cycle of blame, shame, acrimony and disillusionment. Where do you turn if you are struggling to recognise the person you are sharing your life with?

The way I work with you as a couple is this: as a couple entering therapy you are asking for help with your Relationship. Each one of you has your own beliefs, hopes and expectations of what you give and take to and from the relationship and how the other person does and should behave. These expectations are often not only yours but are Family stories that have played out through the generations and are now manifesting in your Relationship.

Often when a Couple enter therapy there is a lack of communication and understanding, a going round in circles, by supporting and encouraging you both to explore your roles I can help you to understand what dynamics may be taking place. This often leads to a shift in the Relationship.

But what happens if you can’t resolve your differences? Sometimes despite the best intentions of both parties the Relationship has come to its natural end. In these circumstances I can support you both in leaving the Relationship in the most amicable way possible.